Growing
up, I never thought much about money. Like water for a
fish, it was always there. My father, Richard, is the
R in H&R Block, the income tax preparation company
he started with his brother, Henry. "Don't worry" was
the only advice my parents ever gave me about money. Under
those words was an unspoken assumption: "There will always
be a man to take care of you." My parents both truly believed
that my world would be safe because I had a trust fund
and Dad would manage everything until I married, at which
time the responsibility, like a family coat of arms, would
pass to my husband. That's how they had done it. That's
how it was done. And I certainly didn't want it any other
way. Money was too big a responsibility, and I felt utterly
incapable.
Then one day, long after
my husband had taken over managing my money, my carefully
constructed world abruptly disintegrated. I went to the
bank's ATM to take out some money--not more than $60 --
and a message on the screen told me I didn't have enough
cash in my account to cover the withdrawal. I soon found
out that my husband was a compulsive gambler in the stock
market. Over the years he had lost a fortune. Now, with
literally no money in the bank, I knew I could no longer
ignore my finances. I had to do something. Even after
our divorce, I received tax bills for over a million dollars,
the result of taxes my husband never paid and bad deals
he had gotten us in.
It was then, at my lowest
ebb, that the tide began to turn, in a way I could never
have predicted. As a journalist, I was hired for a research
project on women with wealth by the organization Resourceful
Women. Over the next several months, I interviewed dozens
of wealthy women who had gone from being financially illiterate
to being financially savvy. I was galvanized by the confidence
and power that getting smart had given them. These women
encouraged me, inspired me, gave me hope and a way to
start tackling my own financial problems. Gradually, what
was once financial gibberish started making sense. For
the first time, I was excited about taking responsibility
for my own financial independence.
While speaking to these
women, I also felt that I was talking to true heroes.
Not just because they had become smart with money, bucking
all kinds of emotional blocks, social taboos, and external
obstacles, but because of what they did with their money
once they got smart. I began to see that managing your
money wisely is just the first part of taking responsibility.
The other part, equally important, is recognizing one
has the power to affect change.
Each woman told me, some
with wide-eyed delight, how she came to the realization,
"I can make a difference." Each spoke of her desire to
contribute to the world, typically through charitable
donations, ethical investments, political contributions,
businesses they started, or sometimes just by being able
to help someone they loved. Once empowered, I learned,
women often become empowering, discovering within themselves
the wisdom and capacity to serve others.
When I began my interviews,
all I wanted to know was how these women managed their
money. I didn't much care how they used it. Only as I
grew more financially adept myself did I start to become
interested in what they had to say about evoking change.
It was then that I began to resonate with their recurring
comments like: "I have this urge to give back," or "the
fun is in the sharing."
Hopefully, in the same
way that I was moved by the women I've interviewed, you'll
be inspired by the stories and opinions collected in this
issue of
More than Money
. Transforming our self-doubt
to self-reliance, our vulnerability to determination,
and our ignorance to understanding is, after all, what
growing is all about. Any woman can become financially
astute. And if you are one who still doubts this in your
heart of hearts, perhaps this issue of
More than Money
will help you hold on to the thought: maybe, just maybe,
I can too.
Barbara Stanny is on the
Impact Project's advisory board and is the author of
Prince Charming Isn't Coming:
How Women Get Smart About Money
(New York: Viking,
1997).
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